By Mokshika Sharma
The week of love is here but why restrict that to just one week? We will get back to that question later. For now, let’s talk about love when it makes you feel overwhelmed. Valentine’s Day is the celebration of Love, they say. For some, it is a chance to renew their bond and for the rest, it is a chance to start a new spark and a new journey with their beloved. From a rose to ways to propose, everything is in the shade of red. But what about those who have never been in love or loved? Are they single because they don’t deserve chocolates and the warmth that love brings to one? Are they single because they were born with flaws that no one would bear? The answer to any such question is a Big Fat No! Having a partner on Valentine’s doesn’t determine your worthiness of being loved. The answer is no because the opposite of red is not grey.
The definition of love for most people changes over time. From the high school era, where relationships are just trial and error, people grow up to understand how love is much more than just a status. However, this article is neither dedicated to love nor to lovers. This is dedicated to those, who don’t understand love to be the blessing they are told to believe. And how can someone be expected to celebrate this love, especially on a day like Valentines? This article is dedicated to the fact that most of these people don’t realise. The fact that not being able to celebrate and appreciate romance does not mean they are broken.
For those who witnessed duty instead of love and violence instead of warmth, it was never your fault, and it never will be. It is completely alright if you don’t trust the process of meeting someone, feeling a spark and falling for them. It is also completely alright if you want to forget your past and move on. But what is not okay is punishing yourself for everything that was never in your control. If Valentine’s Day makes you feel lonely and validates all the demeaning thoughts you think about yourself, then honey, it’s not you, it’s Valentine’s.
For those who were cheated on, ghosted or went through a break-up that punctured their hopes into disbelief, what happened cannot be reversed. You go ahead, take your time, heal, cry, laugh, create art and scream inside-out, but don’t give up. If seeing couples getting all lovey-dovey makes you feel like you were not enough, and that you don’t deserve love, then it’s not you, it’s love.
For those who fell out of love, if the day of love makes you feel like you’re incapable of loving, then you are wrong. It is the rule of this universe that change is the only constant. You grew out of a shell that was not letting you breathe. Be proud of taking a decision for your own happiness, because despite all the hype created by Valentine’s week, it’s always about you.
Being single on Valentine’s is not abnormal. Being uninterested in dating does not make you weird. Being hurt, and stuck on your ex-lover does not make you strong. And sins of your parents don’t make you cursed.